Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it. Proverbs 22:6
The other day, a buddy of mine who has been blogging since 1997, wrote a piece about the inappropriateness of the Editor-in-Chief of our local paper beginning an editorial with a swear word.
My comment was: “How are we going to give the youth lessons when the grown-ups are caught in perpetual adolescence?”
When Wrong is Right and Right is Wrong
But, as it turns out in this topsy-turvy world, and as I have been reminded several times this week, there are actually some people who believe that children do not need instruction, shaping or guidance! In fact, far from needing our help and instruction, it is actually we who need to be taught and instructed by them!
Enter–whoever on earth Dr. Naomi Aldort is…
We truly are living in a world that is operating completely upside down and off the rails from what should be and from what traditionally has always worked.
The foundation of every society is the family unit. Destroy the fabric of the family and the society’s fall is not far behind. I believe one of the ways this is happening is through precisely the advice offered by Aldort who probably got her cues from Dr. Benjamin Spock who’s book “The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care”, promoted such ideas as child demand nursing schedules, delayed toilet training, freedom from punishment, and the promotion of self-esteem as the highest attainable virtue. This psychotic and I would argue satanic approach to raising kids has, in my opinion, helped cause a generation of adults to be depressed, suicidal, violent, and drug-addled. Precisely the things the Self Esteem Movement’s approach were supposed to prevent.
Why? Because God knows that children need and actually desire healthy boundaries and limits. When they do not sense or see them, they misbehave in order to force the parent to take control and establish them. Well, in the 50 years since Dr. Spock’s advisement, behavioral scientists have discovered that a child that is indulged and not given clear limits, instruction or appropriate punishment is more likely to become a dependent, anxious, neurotic adult, lacking self-control.
The Bible says in Isaiah 5:20:
Woe to those who call evil good and good evil, who put darkness for light and light for darkness, who put bitter for sweet and sweet for bitter!
In fact, in every facet of society, the foundations are being torn down while new ones are being erected. This is perceivable particularly with modern parenting philosophies which contravene God’s instructions laid out in the Bible.
Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be upon your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads. Write them on the doorframes of your houses and on your gates.
Deuteronomy 6: 5-9 and again later in the chapter:
In the future, when your son asks you, “What is the meaning of the stipulations, decrees and laws the Lord our God has commanded you?” tell him: “We were slaves of Pharaoh in Egypt, but the Lord brought us out of Egypt with a mighty hand. Before our eyes the Lord sent miraculous signs and wonders—great and terrible—upon Egypt and Pharaoh and his whole household. But he brought us out from there to bring us in and give us the land that he promised on oath to our forefathers. The Lord commanded us to obey all these decrees and to fear the Lord our God, so that we might always prosper and be kept alive, as is the case today. And if we are careful to obey all this law before the Lord our God, as he has commanded us, that will be our righteousness.
According to God’s word–the Bible, teaching and shaping children is not only correct, it is not optional.
In fact, an entire Book of the Bible–the Book of Proverbs, is given over entirely to a consideration of parental guidance and instruction to youths.
This week, in the same vein as above, someone named Shayna Tovah, associated with some homeschooling group said:
“Humans do not need to be taught. They need to be given the opportunity to explore and discover their true nature. For those new parents who are joining this movement.. go for it! It is well worth the effort.”
Excuse me?! If humans do not need to be taught, why are you involved with a homeschooling organization?? Why should there be homeschooling or any schooling for that matter, if children, or more broadly, humans, do not need to be taught?! Why do we build libraries in order to pass along accumulated knowledge to the next generation or place a premium on education??
“their true nature”
The Bible, in Jeremiah 17:9 has this to say concerning our true nature:
The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?
Therefore, she is commenting on matters of which she does not possess a fraction of an understanding.
Education Implies an Imposed Moral
My belief is that this attack against Biblical guidelines and traditional parenting stems from the fact that any instruction or educational setting, in itself, implies a morality be followed. The very reason that an instructor has authority to teach and the pupil has an expectation to pay attention and learn, while being orderly and respectful implies morality.
Do children need instruction, guidance and shaping, or was that just for Grandpa?
Obviously, humans, especially children, do need to be taught and shaped, and you do not need the Bible to figure that out.
My son, do not forget my teaching, but let your heart keep my commandments, for length of days and years of life and peace they will add to you. Let not steadfast love and faithfulness forsake you; bind them around your neck; write them on the tablet of your heart. So you will find favor and good success in the sight of God and man. Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. …