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Would you like to know something that most people don’t know?

Sometimes babies cry.

It doesn’t sound quite as profound on the surface of it, but it is actually a cornerstone of parenting truth of which the vast majority of people are oblivious.

Sometimes babies cry.

They can be fed…and still cry.

They can be clean…and still cry.

They can be dry…and still cry.

They can be held…and still cry.

They can be warm…and still cry.

They can be safe…and still cry.

They can be powdered…and still cry.

They can be loved…and still cry.

They can be burped…and still cry.

They can be satisfied…and still cry.

Crazy as it sounds, sometimes babies just cry. And as any honest Mother or Father can tell you, they are not always consolable. The reason is because their crying doesn’t necessarily equate to a need.

Sometimes babies cry.

Yet, when most people hear a baby crying, even if they know that baby is completely safe and well, a feverishly absurd paranoia rushes over them and they assume that something is wrong with the baby, and with you, if you’re the parent not jumping at the first coo or cry. In other words, there must be something wrong with you as a parent if you’re not reacting quickly enough by their standard of haste in tending to the baby’s “need”.

What they fail to realize is…sometimes babies cry.

I have grown weary of the conventional wisdom, (which disguises itself as unconvetional), stating that a baby under normal circumstances will never and should never cry. This philosophy states that if a baby is crying, that equates to a failure on the part of the parent and a failure that is actually damaging to the baby.

What??  Healthy babies never cry?!

I don’t know how many live babies these “researchers” have been around, but healthy babies definitely do cry.  If your baby never cries, get them checked out immediately.

Consider this quote from Mothering Magazine Founder, Peggy O’mara:

“Don’t stand unmoving outside the door of a crying baby whose only desire is to touch you. Go to your baby. Go to your baby a million times. Demonstrate that people can be trusted, that the environment can be trusted, that we live in a benign universe.”

This philosophy spans from the sentimental, above, to the clinically insane below:

“A baby who is deprived of its mother’s love for just two minutes is anxious about being ignored again the next day, a study found. Experts in child development said that repeated episodes of stress could have a huge effect on a youngster’s health and on his or her course in life. The researches go on to point out that this type of treatment from parents can go on to have long term effects on the child, even affecting his immune system. That’s right, it’s not healthy to ignore your babies cries.”

Did you read that? So according to this “study” your child is going to live a shortened life span, with a weakened immune system and an inability to trust anyone or anything in this life if you happen to be momentarily indisposed of or in the bathroom while your baby begins to cry?!

It doesn’t take heightened discernment or being the father of four small children to see that this qualifies as vain reasoning.

Now for the record, I want to be clear that I am not advocating child neglect. I of course have to make that caveat or else some idiot who is quick and eager to misunderstand will insist I’m promoting something that I am not. However, letting your child make an utterance without diving head-first into the crib is a far cry from neglect.

Sometimes babies cry.